Decisions, decisions

[linaewen]

My latest news from my Dear Hubby this morning was cut short by him having to go to bed early, due to the fact that he had to take allergy meds for a reaction to a mango milkshake. *scowls* Silly Hubby, he should know better than to eat fresh mangos! I'm the only one in the family who can manage them.

In spite of that, he sounds pretty chipper, but is getting a bit too eager to get rid of all our junk. He keeps making references to matches and burning. He wants me to decide how much we should save for storing for some future day when we might get back -- whether for a visit or for a stay of several months -- but of course, it's three years since I saw all the stuff, and can't remember what might be important to keep. Hopefully he'll take some pictures of it to give me some guidance.

Maybe I should dig up some of our old home videos of the place and see if it jogs my memory enough to make some decisions -- not just for what should stay there for that future day of our return, but what should come back now with him (or be sent) and what should be stored for another trip for the purpose of international junk moving. After all this time, it might be easier to just discard it without looking, but it's hard to let go! It is still a wrench to the heart when I find myself looking for something I want, and then remember it's over there, not here. But it's also been a great lesson in holding material things loosely.

By the end of my hubby's time there, I'll be so eager to have him relieved of the stress of decision-making that I'll be ready to say sell it all, just get back here in one piece! :-D

As long as he brings me the stuff on the "no compromise" list...

Comments

[estellye.livejournal.com]

I have been asking for clear guidance in my dreams lately and last night I had a doozy. I had moved into a dorm room at a college, but it was an unusual room that was built for storage. There was a lot of stuff in there that wasn't mine, but it was a large space and I made myself at home in one end of it. Just as I was feeling settled in, I realized that there was another door leading to the hall and I didn't have a key to it. Anyone could open it up at any time. Suddenly all the kids who were settling into their own rooms started coming in and taking things and I couldn't keep track of who had what. I kept shouting, "Hey, that's mine!" or "C'mon, at least check to see if it's mine before you take it," or "That was my Grandmother's!" I felt so invaded and so attached to my stuff.

Honestly I think that the dream was about how I ask for assistance and then stubbornly hold onto issues, not things necessarily. But anyway, I woke up thinking about your husband and all your stored possessions. I am sure that he will do what he can to be sure there will be an opportunity for you to make sorting choices for everything that is there.

(((Lin)))

[lin4gondor.livejournal.com]

Thanks, my dear! Our lives would be easier if we didn't hold on to so much -- and in the end that will help us make decisions. I'm expecting lots of digital photos of piles of stuff any time now.

[meneleth.livejournal.com]

Lin - Keeping you and your hubby in our prayers for a safe passage and happy reunion. How much longer will he be over there?

[lin4gondor.livejournal.com]

He's got another two weeks. Not much time to finish everything he wants to do, but more than enough time for us both to be anxious for it to be over!

[kimbys-place.livejournal.com]

He keeps making references to matches and burning

DH, Pyromaniac.
*snirkle*

(((((((((((((((huggling you)))))))))))))))))

[lin4gondor.livejournal.com]

Hee! Guess he's put the match to some stuff already, and more power to him. I do know for a fact that there was some stuff there that didn't even warrant moving, it was so junky.

[chic-too.livejournal.com]

Allergic to MANGOs that's tragic.I just made a lovely chicken, bokchoy and mango stirfry for the boys at work!

[lin4gondor.livejournal.com]

Ooo, that sounds delicious! Thankfully, he can eat mangos if they are cooked or processed in some manner -- but fresh ones are a no no, which he seems to have forgotten. ;-)