Catching up big time

[linaewen]

I do believe that it is unheard of that I have ever gone a whole week without updating. I just changed that -- it has now been officially a week and a day since my last post. Did you notice? ;-)

A Time To Talk
by
Robert Frost.

When a friend calls to me from the road
And slows his horse to a meaning walk,
I don't stand still and look around
On all the hills I haven't hoed,
And shout from where I am, 'What is it?'
No, not as there is a time to talk.
I thrust my hoe in the mellow ground,
Blade-end up and five feet tall,
And plod: I go up to the stone wall
For a friendly visit.

I just found this poem recently, and I really love it!  It speaks so well about that which is my goal, too, in my relationships -- to take time, to be there when people want to talk, to put aside my busyness for something more important.  Unfortunately, I haven't been doing so well at that lately.

Some reasons for this are that I have, of course, been flat out taken up with moving and getting resettled.  This last week, however, we had to deal with a couple of things on top of that stress that kind of set us back a bit.  In point form:

• I overdid it with moving and got sick, and had a hard time getting back to feeling good again, enough to keep up with the next stage of moving.
• We literally did not have a proper bathroom until just the other day, and there's nothing like not being able to wash up properly to make one feel kind of wretched.
• My son finally learned about the job he was hoping to get at the hospital -- they gave it to the other guy, who was inhouse.  So it's back to the drawing board in the job search department.
• My brother-in-law's mother committed suicide early last week, very unexpectedly, and that was very hard for my sister and her hubby.  Hard for all of us, because we've never had to deal with something like that before, even in our extended family.
  

However, I am thankful to say that we are coping as we usually do, even with hard things.  I'm feeling better, the bathroom is getting better daily, things are getting set up and put in place (including the PC, yay!), my DS is pressing on in looking for the job he is meant to have since this other one obviously wasn't it, and we are being comforted after the shock of loss in the extended family.

Today's plan is to get out on my own and drive to my folks' place so I can fetch some things we need for the house -- shelves, a carpet, the artificial Christmas tree...  ;-)  Hopefully the fog will lift so it is a pleasant drive!  I also plan to stop on the way at a few places and do some leisurely Christmas shopping.  It will be nice to get away on my own, even if only for part of a day.

So another day will pass when I won't be very good at the friendly visiting with my dear ones, but my goal for the week is to get caught up on everyone.  I see many of you have those Christmas stockings up in your LJ, and I'm coming around to put something nice in them!  :-D  In the meantime, do know that you are being thought of tenderly, each and every one of you.

*hugs for the day*

Comments

[mumstheword54.livejournal.com]

Oh, Lin!
SO sorry to hear about your brother-in-law's mother! *hugs and prayers for your family*

Also sorry to hear you've been ill, but so glad you're on the mend! *more hugs and prayers for a full recovery*

*more prayers for your son's search for the right-for-him job*

Hurray for functioning bathrooms, and for day trips! *hugs for your shopping and your folks*

And thank you, THANK YOU! for the wonderful Frost poem: Just the encouragement I needed today! Because people matter. *copies, pastes, and prints*

*many hugs and blessings for your busy day*

*and brownies*

[lin4gondor.livejournal.com]

Yum, brownies! And hugs with prayers! That's just what I needed, lol! :-D

[maidoforange.livejournal.com]

((((((((((((Lin))))))))))). I'm so sorry about the loss in your extended family and that DS didn't get the job. I had been missing you but figured you were just busy with the move. But you were sick, too, and no bathroom! ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Lin)))))))))))))))))))))).

[lin4gondor.livejournal.com]

I've been missing you, too, and I'm so sorry for not keeping up with you better. I did notice that you have been having a slow time as well, hope it's getting better for you.

*hugs*

[shirebound]

That's a wonderful poem. And I hope you're feeling much better, very soon!

[estellye.livejournal.com]

I am so glad you will have a little time away today. I hope you enjoy it!

I am very happy to see your post, dearest! ((((((Lin)))))) May you have all that you need to see you through all you must do.

[lothithil.livejournal.com]

((((Lin)))))
Missed you!

[juno-magic.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time at the moment and such a lot of stress. And just before Christmas. That's not fair. :-(

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. Suicide is always hardest on those who remain behind. Sadly I know that from experience.

You and your family are in my thoughts and what prayers I have.

[siradaono.livejournal.com]

You are excused, forgiven, missed, and prayed for.

but I know in my heart;

you knew that already.

((((((Margie&Fam)))))

[faramirgirl.livejournal.com]

((((lin)))) I am glad that you are okay. Lovely poem. I hope that things calm down for you soon.